The pressure of life often makes people breathless. For Ju Fufu, these oppressions are like an endless haze, shrouding her life. She has tried many ways to get rid of these oppressions and confusions, trying to find the “answer” that can guide her. But every time, she wanders in nothingness and confusion. She once thought that success and happiness were external yardsticks and the criteria given by others, until she found that the so-called “answers” she was chasing were actually just an escape from her heart.
Life is not as smooth as she expected. Around her, it seems that everyone lives a glamorous life, and it seems that everyone is constantly making progress and moving towards the pinnacle of success. But she herself, however, remains where she is. She once had restlessness, anxiety and confusion. She asked herself: “Why can’t I always live as calmly as others? Why can’t I keep moving forward like those successful people?”
But all these questions finally have answers after she gradually went through every stage of her life. She found that the meaning of life is not simply to pursue external recognition and success, but to reconcile with oneself, to find the place that belongs to oneself from the depths of one’s heart, to accept and tolerate all imperfections and shortcomings.
Constantly pursuing external success, but finally found that the most important thing is inner peace and self-knowledge
Ju Fufu’s growth process is full of reluctance and struggle. Since childhood, she has been living under the pressure of pursuing external recognition. She wants to succeed, want to get the envy of others, and want to be recognized by society. She studies hard and works hard, almost every day she is forced to suffocate. However, after so many years of hard work, she still feels empty and confused.
She once thought that her happiness and success were hidden in the standards defined by others, in those praises, honors and material satisfaction. But as time passed, she gradually realized that the so-called success is not the ultimate goal, it cannot bring people real satisfaction and inner peace. Ju Fufu began to doubt: “Am I always working in the wrong direction? Is it that what I pursue is not what can really bring me happiness?”
She understood that all the efforts and pursuits were not for the recognition of the outside world, but for the peace and satisfaction of her heart. The real success should be to reconcile with oneself, to find the calmness and tranquility that belongs to oneself in the complicated world.
No need to compare with others, just walk side by side with your past self
For Fufu, the most difficult thing is not how to move towards the success of the outside world, but how to let go of the burden in your heart and find the balance of reconciliation with yourself. She once had such a confusion: Why are others moving forward, but she is stagnant? This question troubled her for a long time, but in the process of her gradual maturity, she gradually understood a truth: the real power does not come from surpassing others, but from reconciling with the past self, accepting her past shortcomings and failures, and drawing strength from these experiences to move forward.
Fufu finally understood that everyone’s growth trajectory is unique. She does not need to compare with others, and does not need to pursue those illusory goals. All she can do is to make progress slowly at her own pace and become a better person. She no longer seeks comfort and guidance from others, but begins to discover the true peace and strength from her own heart.
Facing the ruthlessness and injustice of reality, keep your heart clear and tenacious
Fufu’s heart was once full of anxiety and fear. She was afraid of others’ evaluation of her, afraid of her own failure, and afraid that the future was full of unknown fear. In countless lost nights, she had lost herself and even thought about giving up. She doubted whether she had enough courage to face the injustice and cruelty in life.
However, it was in these setbacks and difficulties that Fufu gradually realized that the meaning of life is not to live a perfect life, but to learn to find yourself in imperfection. No matter how the outside world changes, how unfair it is, we can still choose to keep our hearts clear and tenacious. What we can do is not to control everything, but to learn to accept everything and find the motivation to move forward in acceptance.
In this process, Fufu learned how to face the unsatisfactory things in life calmly. She knows that true courage is not fearlessness, but the ability to stick to one’s beliefs and keep moving forward in the face of pain and challenges. She has learned to compromise with the world and reconcile with herself. She knows that the road of life is not smooth, but she can still go on firmly, because she no longer looks for answers from the outside world, but has learned to find peace and strength from her heart.
Live your truest self without taking external evaluation as the standard
Fufu once spent a lot of time on external evaluation. She cares about what others think of her and longs for recognition and praise. She constantly pursues those seemingly glamorous achievements and wants to shine on the stage of society. However, after a long time, she found that this kind of external evaluation could not bring her real satisfaction, but made her more lost.
She began to realize that the meaning of life does not lie in the eyes of others, but in whether she can live her truest self. She no longer forces herself to cater to the expectations of others, but begins to respect her inner voice and respect her own choices. She knows that her value does not depend on the recognition of the outside world, but comes from her true acceptance of her heart.
She understands that true freedom comes from not being bothered by other people’s evaluations, but being able to face oneself calmly, do what one wants to do most, and live the most authentically. Only when we are no longer swayed by the standards of the outside world can we find our own happiness and tranquility.